Thought of the day - Love is a chemical reaction
The 3 stages of love are: lust, attraction and attachment. Each stage might be driven by different hormones and chemicals.
Lust is the first stage of love and is driven by the sex hormones testosterone and oestrogen – in both men and women.
Adrenaline, serotonin and dopamine are involved in stage number 2, attraction. Also on this stage love needs to be "blind'
Often, when we have a crush, when we lust for a person, we see only a small percentage of who they really are. The rest we make up for ourselves. Rather than listen, or learn, we smother them in who we imagine them to be, what we desire for ourselves, we create little fantasies of people and let them grow in our... "hearts", or brains?
And this is where the relationship fails. In time, the fiction we scribble onto a person falls away, the lies we tell ourselves unravel and soon the person standing in front of you is almost unrecognizable, you are now complete strangers in your own love. And what a terrible shame it is.
My advice: pay attention to the small details of people, you will learn that the universe is far more spectacular an author than we could ever hope to be.
Finally, oxytocin and vasopressin are involved in stage number 3 because attachment is the bond that keeps couples together.
#personalnonsense #love
Corina Marinescu or yes! It follows your recent post about New role found for the immune system: Controlling Social Interactions and it completes well its commentary thread.
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ReplyDeleteIf you go that way, everything is chemical, the pleasure, the life...
ReplyDeleteI'd recently read that breakups can have withdrawal symptoms equal to drug withdrawal. Probably because it is a drug withdrawal. Been there myself.
ReplyDeleteKevin Smith Breakups affect the serotoninergic system, serotonin is a major neurotransmitter. Thus they have similar symptoms to the Serotonin Syndrome.
ReplyDeleteOlder you become, you have more chance to live a breakup, you're not alone...
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Love this kind of alchemy.
ReplyDeleteJames Without the lust, you don't have the need to search a mate... When found a possible person, then attraction has to be set. I think that Corina Marinescu is right.
ReplyDeleteJames Don't care, I didn't want to be rude. If I say that she is right, it's my opinion and not a controversy about your question, I just wanted to clarify the case for you.
ReplyDeleteJames Thx, i'd add that you made a good remark: for males, lust comes first then attraction and for women it's the contrary, attraction then lust... Generally speaking of course... :-)
ReplyDeleteWhen a person contradicts this theory, he/she is very attractive for the other genre. Something to dig...
James Certainly! And the order of the states of mind depends if you're looking for a rapid intercourse or for a durable relation.
ReplyDeleteIt's 9:30 PM for me now (Paris) and I get out of G+ for the night. See ya
Corina Marinescu : Thank you for the thorough synopsis on this silly little thing we call love. I was always told to watch a person's actions, if you want to know if they love you.
ReplyDeleteTo be or not to be, that is the question....
ReplyDeleteThis is one of my favorite posts!
ReplyDeleteYou're one in 7 billion.
Ok, going back to my bushes to be creepy...❤💋
I knew I knew it's all about mating
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